Planning a wedding means that a slew of decisions are heading your way and FAST. Between decorations, pre-wedding festivities, dresses, and the like, the last thing you want to do is feel the burden and guilt of having to exclude someone from your special day. Whatever the reason may be, if you’ve decided to not invite someone to your wedding, then keep in mind there is a right and wrong way to handle the issue. If you’re looking for the classy way to take care of the situation, then follow along carefully.
Explain that you’re keeping things intimate.
This is always a good go-to explanation if someone wonders why they aren’t invited to your wedding. Instead of inventing some elaborate story, just let them know that you’re keeping it a more intimate affair for your own peace of mind. Honestly, most couples do want to keep things small and intimate, so it’s not all that far-fetched. Unless you’re throwing a gargantuan party and inviting everyone you’ve known since pre-school. Then you may want to consider another option…
Yes, budget is a huge reason many people cull their wedding invitation list. While some plates nowadays are costing upwards of $100 per person, it’s easy to use the excuse that your budget just isn’t allowing everyone to be invited. You can explain to them that you would love to have them at your special day, but unfortunately the budget is tight and reserved for mostly family members.
Let them know the venue is a bit on the small side.
If you have decided on a smaller wedding venue, then this isn’t a terrible way to break the news. Simply let the un-invited know that while you would love to have them there, the wedding venue just won’t allow it. Explain that while the list has already been cut in half, most of it is filled with family, and the venue just cannot accommodate much more.
Man up and be gentle.
If you’d rather not lie, or make up excuses to save their feelings, you could always man up and be honest in your decision-making process. Something obviously happened in order for them to get the axe from the invite list, and explain to them that it wasn’t something you could easily recover from. Truth be told, if what happened between the two of you was painful enough for them to not be invited to your wedding, then chances are they probably already know there is a good chance they won’t be invited. Just make sure that if you’re choosing this option and manning (or womanning) the heck up, then make sure you’re gentle about it and you do it the right way. Nothing is worse than a text message or an email, or (GASP) finding out from another friend or family member. Be as honest as possible, and who knows, you may just be able to hash things out prior to your big day anyway.
As always, happy planning from your friends at Polka Dot Design!